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Schedules

Every night this week, Sean and I have sat in our living room together.

Riveting story, I know…But seriously, it has been stinkin’ wonderful.

Since we got married four years ago, our schedules have been off. First, I worked a lot of evenings. Then Sean started grad school. And recently, he was coaching wrestling. Life has been busy, and for almost four years, the nights that we’ve had free to just sit in our living room together have been few and far between.

I have been wanting nights like this for a while now. Time to sit and read in the same room. Time to chat. No busyness, no running from one thing to the next, time just to be.

I like looking up from my book and seeing him sitting across the room. That’s the only thing I want to put on our calendar for a while.

Cristie’s Engagement Party

This summer, our youngest sister is getting married. And so, as our family is apt to do, we added another party to the list of parties and showers already associated with a wedding: an engagement party. A couple of Saturdays ago, we headed to my parents’ house for the celebration.

Not wanting to miss out on any of the fun, it was a full house for the entire weekend including me, Sean, my sister Ali, Cristie and her fiance Josh, Josh’s mom Karen (all the way from Seattle), and Cristie’s namesake and her husband Stephen (all the way from Georgia). By the time we arrived on Friday night, my mom had already done most of the hard work: decorating the house and baking cookies – so we got to kick back, relax, watch part of a British mini-series, and try our hand at an old roller-coaster computer game from the 90s we found lying around the house…

On Saturday morning before the party, my mom, me, my sisters, Karen, and Cristie and Stephen all headed to our favorite bridal shop for Cristie’s second wedding dress fitting. It was actually looking a bit more her size this time around, so it was fun to imagine what she will look like on the day of her wedding! I would show you pictures, but I’m sure my future brother-in-law reads my blog (totally kidding, but just to be safe).

When it was time to get ready for the party, I went all disaster-mode on everyone. Whenever we need to get dressed up, I am notorious for bringing either the wrong thing or nothing at all besides jeans (or in this case, a dress I didn’t realize had a stain on it). Ali spent half an hour chasing me around the house while I rejected a series of perfectly adequate dresses, before my mom pulled the winner out of her closet at the last-minute. You can give the girl some new routines…but you can’t take the old ones out of her…

Cristie, as always, looked stunning. My sister is the type of person that radiates joy, and it was wonderful to see her so happy, surrounded by so many people she loves, and who love her.

Part of me feels like Sean and I were just at our engagement party. Halfway through the evening I found myself wondering when our college friends were going to show up. Even though, they never did make an appearance, we got to meet so many of the friends that Cristie and Josh have made in college and it was great to see my sister and her fiance so happy, so excited for the future and supported by so many friends and family members.

We love you sweet sister and CAN. NOT. WAIT. to party at your wedding this summer! Your man has found quite a catch (and we are getting a fairly good brother-in-law in the mix, as well). We wish you all the best! Enjoy your engagement! Our love to you both!

Technology Time-Out

I’ve kidded recently that Sean has been rather busy ruling the world…the world according to 9th graders, that is. Between teaching and coaching wrestling after school and at matches (Sometimes I forget and still call them ‘wrestling games’) our time together has been limited. To add to the mix, last week Sean started his next semester of grad classes…Not to mention that I occasionally have a life as well (Not in the selfless, shaping-of-young-minds way that Sean has, but a life none the less).

With the way our weeknight schedule seems to be shaking out, we’ve needed to take advantage of the one night a week that we have at home together. And quite frankly, lately we’ve been slightly misusing that time. I’ve been known to spend a good amount of time on my computer – catching up on all the blogs on my Reader, Pinterest-ing my heart out or plodding away at my life goal: watching every episode of 90210 (admirable, I know). Before I know it, the entire evening has gone by and all I have to show for it are sore eyes and a feeling of severe procrastination.

So in the spirit of…

I am declaring a technology time-out for the one night a week we are both home. While this might seem like a silly gesture to some of you who don’t suffer from the same level of tech-addiction that I do, please accept that this is a valid baby step for me. Over the past two weeks, I have been somewhat successful in this new venture, although, this week’s night was a little interrupted when I was hit with a case of extreme fatigue at 8pm and headed off for an early bedtime.

In addition to this setting a healthier pattern for our lives in general, I think this will be much healthier for our marriage as well. And though I declare myself an excellent time-fritterer…I refuse to fritter away my time with Sean. He makes me laugh too much, it would just be a waste.

25 Post-Its

Yesterday was my 25th birthday. On Tuesday night, I was a bit daunted by the task of spending most of the day by myself, so of course, I whined about it considerably to Sean before we fell asleep.

I woke up on my birthday to find a bright orange post-it next to my bed. Sean had left 25 post-its scattered throughout the house. 25 simple ways to enjoy my birthday – even if I was by myself.

Here were some of my favorites…

#18 Put on this party hat. (Drawn on our bathroom mirror)

#1 Blow the candles out on this cake (On our chalkboard wall)

 

Thanks to the orange happiness posted all over our house – I had a very Happy Birthday indeed.

After Sean came home from work, we headed off to a restaurant for some bueno Italian food and time with friends.

I am blessed.

It’s the Little Things…

Life isn’t all sunshine and roses around here in newlywed-edness…

Oh no…We’ve managed to find a few small ways to annoy the HECK out of each other.

For instance, this is Sean’s shopping list…

You don’t see it? Did you think it was behind that EMPTY bottle of laundry detergent sitting right in the middle of the hallway? Nope, turns out that is the list.

I believe that the intention is for me to shove that bottle, an empty cereal box and the plastic left over from a roll of paper towels in my purse when I go to the store so that I don’t forget anything.

Turns out I’m even MORE annoying…and I waste money while I’m at it…

You can count on this little energy-suck being pointed in your general direction at all times while not in use.

Never know when you are going to need those precious few seconds of actually having to open your computer before you use it…so why not leave it open all the time?

Trying to sleep?…You bet this ray of sunshine will be pointed at your face throughout the night.

 

In all seriousness,  I couldn’t ask for a better roommate despite the fact that we have, of course, discovered a few of each others idiosyncrasies.

I love you Seany! Now please excuse me while I shut my computer and go throw away the junk you left in the hallway…

 

Disclaimer: No husbands were harmed (or offended) in the writing of this post.